Hardcover published by Routledge (June 2008), ISBN: 9781560237907
Trade Paperback published by Routledge (June 2008), ISBN: 9781560237914
In addition to updating the current chapters, there is a new introduction, a glossary, and the following additional chapters:
* The Single Lesbian Lover
* Redefined Marriages
* Labeling: Lesbian/Bisexual/Unsure?
The discovery of same-gender orientation can be made by any woman at any age. Fifty-nine percent of the women I interviewed (myself included) had no idea of our same-gender orientation until after we were married. Many women believe they are the only ones to ever have had these feelings and with no place to turn for information or comfort, the isolation and pain that accompanies this realization is often terrifying.
Women need to know about the existence of this book, Married Women Who Love Women. If you have any ideas on how to spread the word or if you have any connections with radio or television stations or newspapers or magazines where I might get the word across, please let me know.
I really do appreciate your help, as will all of the women who need to find this book.
When I originally wrote Married Women Who Love Women, I had focused primarily on the women who were in marriages—how they dealt with husbands and children, and how they coped with double lives. But there is another very important part of the picture that I had inadvertently left out: the single lovers of married women. If both women are in marriages, dealing with the other obligations and responsibilities that each encounters is a little easier. But if one is single, she must be a special kind of a woman to stand by the woman she loves knowing that often she may come in second to the MWLW’s family. I realized that I could not ignore them while trying to grapple with this complex issue from multiple perspectives, but by then it was too late to add that chapter. Still, I was surprised and pleased with the large response I got when I put out a call looking for these women to interview for the second edition. Thanks to their generosity, both in time and in the information they willingly shared, the second edition rectifies that omission with its chapter, “The Single Lovers of Married Women.”
I have gotten notes from husbands of MWLW asking how others deal with this phenomenon. If you would like to share your experiences, as with the women I speak to, I promise you complete anonymity. You can contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org